This weekend I was out of town for a friend’s wedding. It was all so beautiful and romantic. The bride was gorgeous, the food delicious and the first dance memorable. I love spring and I love weddings. Weddings are so fun. The bride and groom’s happiness and excitement is always so cute and you just can’t help but smile and be happy too. I’ve had “At Last,” by Etta James stuck in my head all weekend. There is just something about wedding happiness that is infectious. The happy couple were all smiles as they went around and greeted all their guests. It was so sweet and then they showed the slideshow. Dang it, those things get me every time. I think it’s the combination of a the sweet/sappy music playing as you see the two people, now united as one growing up separately and then you see them become a couple all in about five minutes. I don’t know, it’s very moving though 🙂
Anyway, all of the wedding festivities from this weekend have put me in a little blue box kind of mood. When I think of weddings I think of Tiffany’s and a perfect little blue box with a small white ribbon. Although, I have recently decided that I don’t want anyone to go into debt paying for an engagement ring, so I shall be very happy without the blue box and I will even forego the diamond if necessary. However, I have extremely sensitive skin, so I will need a platinum wedding band 🙂 No, but really, maybe it’s just the season, but beautiful white dresses, cakes and lovely venues are floating around in my head.
I just started reading “This Momentary Marriage,” by John Piper. It is really a great read even if you are not married. The first chapter is titled, “Staying Married Is Not about Staying in Love.” He quotes Dietrich Bonhoeffer at the beginning saying, “As you give the ring to one another and have now received it a second time from the hand of the pastor, so love comes from you, but marriage from above, from God. As high as God is above man, so high are the sanctity, the rights, and the promise of love. It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love.” He goes on in the first chapter to talk about how marriage is God’s doing and for God’s glory. I haven’t finished it yet, but am looking forward reading the whole thing. I do like the way Piper begins the book talking about the momentary gift of marriage. He starts the introduction talking about martyrs John and Betty Stam.
Ever since I was a little girl I have dreamed of the day that I would walk down the aisle, a vision in white, with my dad ready to marry the man of my dreams. I’ve spent countless hours daydreaming about this unidentified day floating around sometime in the hopefully not too far off future when I will become Mrs. So and So. I think all little girls must dream of this magical day. Well, as I have gotten older and I attend more of my friends weddings I am struck by the weight of the commitment they are making. I have been blessed to grow up in a home where the gospel is clearly displayed through my parent’s marriage. I have seen that marriage is not without conflict, but that conflict walked out Biblically leads to growth and much joy. I have seen my parents walk faithfully for many years. I love the introduction in “This Momentary Marriage,” Piper writes that “Marriage is a momentary gift. I have only scratched the surface of its wonders and its wounds. I hope that you will go farther and deeper and higher. As this book is published, Noel and I are passing our fortieth anniversary of marriage. She is God’s gift to me–far better than I deserve. We speak often of the wonder of being married till one of us dies. It has not been trouble-free. So we imagine ourselves in our seventies or eighties–when divorce is not only sin, but socially silly–sitting across from each other perhaps at Old Country Buffet, and smiling at each other’s wrinkled faces, and saying with the deepest gratitude for God’s grace: “We made it.” To those who are just beginning, I simply join Dietrich Bonhoeffer in saying, ‘Welcome one another…for the glory of God. That is God’s word for your marriage. Thank him for it, thank him for leading you thus far, ask him to establish your marriage, to confirm it, sanctify it and preserve it. So your marriage will be for the praise of his glory.'” I hope that one day I will be able to enjoy this gift for the praise of his glory, but if not, I know that God, in his sovereign wisdom will graciously provide all that I need.